Go Ahead Already – Make A Decision!

Decision making. You face a multitude of decisions every day.

Decision Making

  • Should you focus on a project or catch up on your Facebook status?
  • What should you wear?
  • To exercise or not to exercise?
  • Should you wake up a bit earlier to read a book or hit the snooze button for the tenth time?
  • Should you change jobs?
  • How can you best serve your community?
  • How do you best equip your children to face the challenges and opportunities in today’s world?

Lots and lots of decision making to do. Some decisions are big. Others…puny. Yet the mere volume of decisions you face each day can feel overwhelming. How often do you get stuck not knowing how to make a decision?

If you feel stuck in your decision making, here is a simple decision-making process that can help you make better decisions faster.

Decision Making Process—Make Better Decisions Faster

Be honest with yourself. Ask yourself two questions:

  • What do I really want to do right now?
  • What is the best thing I can do right now?

By answering these two questions honestly, you’ll gain clarity and confidence. Why? Because being truthful with yourself is always empowering. Always remember, “the truth shall set you free.”

Keep it simple. Don’t make things complicated. For little decisions, run through the possible scenarios and make your best choice immediately. For bigger decision, list out the pros and cons for each decision, get advice from a few trusted advisers, and then take action.

Move quickly. Most decisions, even big ones, should be made quicker rather than slower. Don’t misunderstand, I’m not talking about rash decisions. However, even big, important decisions can be made within a couple of weeks once you gather enough facts. Spending too much time contemplating a single decision leads to wasted energy and second guessing.

No decision is a decision. The worst possible decision is not making a “mistake.” The worst possible decision is getting stuck making no decision. You can correct a mistake, but indecision is paralyzing.

 

Question: What helps you most in your decision making?

 

  • http://twitter.com/MarianneClement Marianne Clements

    Kent,

    I certainly agree that indecision is paralyzing and very time-consuming.  I think part of the issue is too many choices!  Most decisions can be changed if we find that our choice isn’t quite working out for us.  Thanks for the reminder!

    Have a Victorious Day!
    Marianne Clements

    • http://liveitforward.com Kent Julian

      You’re welcome :)

  • Anonymous

    OH man. You got me. Indecision IS paralyzing.

    I grew up in “The Church” and have always been taught the importance of praying and relying on God. I developed the habit of saying “I will pray about it” when faced with a decision I wasn’t sure about.

    In the past year or so, I heard the thought that Christians sometimes rely on this as a crutch. Correct me if I’m wrong, but I believe it may have been through Dan Miller in 48days??  We say we will pray about something, but really its a way to avoid the issue or not take responsibility for the decision.

    I really like the two questions you list above. This breaks it down and makes the decision process seem less overwhelming.

    • http://liveitforward.com Kent Julian

      Praying about the decision is wise…it’s talking to the most trusted adviser there is in the universe :)

      At the same time, that most trusted adviser will speak to you through His word, trusted friends, your thoughts, and your ACTIONS. As the Bible says, “He will direct our paths if our desire it to follow Him” (paraphrase).

      So, I think praying about it is actually a wise move, but only if it’s not used as an excuse for making no decision.

      Thanks for sharing, Alana. I always love hearing your thoughts and insights…lots of wisdom.

      • Anonymous

        Ah yes. I agree with you Kent – “praying is actually a wise move, but only if it’s not used as an excuse for making no decision.” I find now  that I am still praying, but I no longer throw out the phrase “I will pray about it” as a way to keep other Christians at bay while giving me space to hem and haw over a decision. :) 

        • http://liveitforward.com Kent Julian

          You go, girl!

      • Phil Conrad

        I’ve also heard that praying ahead of the decision may be a helpful strategy. In other words, asking the Lord for help in decision-making before you are actually presented with the decision you need to make. He already knows it’s coming so He can prepare you ahead of time. (Pray without ceasing – 1 Thessalonians 5:17)

        • http://liveitforward.com/ Kent Julian

          Great word, Phil!

  • Lorie Allen

    The trouble I have with those two questions, Kent, is this: what if they contradict each other? I might really want to do one thing-something that has an unknown outcome–maybe good, maybe bad–maybe a new adventure….but the other question might be implying that I “play it safe” since that is what seems to be the “best thing” to do now…

    Any suggestions?

    Lorie

    • http://liveitforward.com Kent Julian

      Lorie…again, in my book, NO decision is the worst decision. Don’t rush a decision, but don’t allow yourself to get stuck.

      A great book on this is entitled: “Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway.” Really changes ones perspective on decision making. GREAT book!

      Here’s a link:  http://www.amazon.com/dp/0345487427?tag=livitfor-20&camp=14573&creative=327641&linkCode=as1&creativeASIN=0345487427 (affiliate link).

  • http://zechariahnewman.com/ Zechariah Newman

    Great post Kent! I set a deadline both for making a decision and for sticking with the decision. When I first started blogging I was extremely inconsistent until I decided to write regularly for a year and then check the fruit. If we don’t do this we are sprinting one second and then looking over our shoulder the next wondering if we are going the right way.

    • http://liveitforward.com/ Kent Julian

      Curious. How consistently do you blog? And what has been the fruit of your consistent blogging?

      • http://zechariahnewman.com/ Zechariah Newman

        For 7 months it was twice a week and I wasn’t guest posting. When I switched to once a week and guest posting once a week I have seen constant growth. My email list is growing by 40% a month for 4 months straight.

        • http://liveitforward.com/ Kent Julian

          Awesome. Thanks for sharing!

        • http://liveitforward.com/ Kent Julian

          Another question. How big is your email list? And what are the 3-5 keys to seeing it grow?

          (My isn’t growing that fast :)

          *Kent Julian*

          *Lead Your Life Into YOUR BIGGER STORY*www.liveitforward.com

          “Normal People Don’t Make History!” –Kent Julian

  • http://kimanziconstable.com/ kimanzi constable

    Keeping it simple is definitely the key for me, when I over-complicate, I make excuses and procrastinate.

    • http://liveitforward.com/ Kent Julian

      I’m the same way, Kimanzi. Lucky, I have a simplistic mind :)

  • http://sparkvoice.wordpress.com/ DS

    I feel the most comfortable when I can make a decision based upon some knowledge. Normally when I struggle with a decision it’s because I’m more concerned with how others are going to be impacted.